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Frustration and Negativity: Job Search Sabotage


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Yesterday, I posted the example of the worst job inquiry I've ever received which has prompted a few questions from people who have been unemployed for an extended time and relate to the frustration pouring out of the letter. Frustration is an undeniable and natural reaction during the job search.

Simply put - the economy sucks right now. Many very talented people are out of work or under-employed. This is even more of a reason you need to put the extra effort into the job search and into how you present yourself throughout the process. You are your number one fan and it's up to you to sell yourself every time you walk through an interviewer's door or send an employment inquiry. It is your job, despite your frustration, the economy, the doom and gloom, the rejection letters, and the unwillingness of others, to put your best foot forward and do it with a smile on your face if you plan to go back to work anytime soon.

A company will not hire you because:

  • You have been unemployed for X number of months or years
  • You have personal financial obligations or need health insurance
  • You are going through a divorce
  • You need more of a work/life balance
  • For any reason thrown out there that has to do with your personal needs

    A company will hire you because:

    • Your background fits the job
    • AND your professional experiences and skills add value to an organization
    • AND your energy and enthusiasm are contagious and the team wants to share office space with you
    • AND you have a positive attitude and a willingness to learn new things

    It is your responsibility to demonstrate this to any prospective employer. Check the negative attitude and frustration at the door. It's easy to get down on yourself and anything else the stands in your way during a long job search, but voicing it, even eluding to it, will not help you one bit.

    The question is how does one stay positive during a job search when nobody seems to want to help you? Where do you channel the frustration? How does one revive and advance their job search when the possibilities seem limited? More about that tomorrow.

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    Stephanie Lloyd (April 23rd, 2009)

    Another great post Lindsay! I receive cover letters filled with frustration and desperation on a daily basis. It can’t be overstated: this will get you [job seekers] nowhere.

    I know it can be hard at times, but it’s critical to stay positive and focused and keep moving forward. Radiating anger and self-pity has never worked before and it certainly will not work in this highly competitive job market.


    Allison Yochim (April 23rd, 2009)

    Great advice, Lindsay and Stephanie. I look forward to reading the follow-up post tomorrow.

    Mark L. Olson (April 23rd, 2009)

    I enthusiastically agree with every point you made Lindsay and I offer this thought for everyone sitting in front of their computer staring at a blank Word doc screen…you get one shot to make the perfect impression.

    It takes a lot of intellectual and emotional effort to look at an opportunity, figure out exactly what they need, articulate exactly what you offer to satisfy that need better than anyone else, and do it with conviction free of your baggage. Anything less and you’re guaranteed to fail because there are 100 other good candidates who are going to treat that opportunity like it’s the only shot they take all year.

    The biggest problem with allowing desparation to creep into your search and your brain is it feeds on itself. Every new rejection or silent phone or empty Inbox is another bite taken out of your confidence, spirit and self-esteem…if you allow it.

    Tania (April 23rd, 2009)

    Desperation is definitely a turn-off. People like to work with others who are excited about the work they do, not people who are taking the job as any job, and taking it only because they need health insurance. It’s a waste of time to hire people with this attitude because they won’t last long in the position and you’ll be back out there trying to find someone else to fill it in no time. You know what? Starbucks offers health insurance. I think I’d go work at Starbucks rather than allow myself to be unemployed for 2 years.

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